Three, count them, three.

[listersgirl]

Point the first

There are too many ways to contact people these days. Between landlines, cell phones, texting, voice mail, pagers, e-mail, IM, blackberries, message boards, personal messages, and probably others that I'm forgetting, there's really no excuse not to make a very good effort to find people. And I think that's wrong. Maybe sometimes I don't want to make that effort -- maybe sometimes I want to send one e-mail and leave it at that, and not have to follow up in 15 different ways.

Also, it makes it very hard to hide from people. At least, it makes it hard to hide without it being obvious.

Not that I'm trying to hide from anyone (obviously, or else I wouldn't be here) or even want to avoid talking to anyone, but there are times when I'd like to institute a return to the days of notes delivered by footmen.

Point the second

The conversation where two people try to figure out if they're both on the same LJ filter and therefore can refer to something said there, without actually revealing what was said in that filter in case one of them isn't on it, is both awkward and amusing. Sometimes I feel like entries should come with a little list of who can see them so as to avoid faux pas.

Point the third

Sugar Ray, Floored, is the perfect example of why you should never buy an album after hearing only one song. The single, "Fly", is nothing like the rest of the album. Not that I bought the album (although, yes, I am that behind the times), but having just now heard it I'm quite surprised.

Comments

[yiskah.livejournal.com]

Heh - yes, I totally agree with point the second.

[caffeinediary.livejournal.com]

Hrm, point the second reminds me why I often don't post stuff on LJ or else remember that it's still very much a public forum and that certain things can get back to the wrong people. If I get into that sort of thinking I just don't post or I will bring up the point in question with the person whom it directly involves. Some things simply DO NOT belong on a forum like LJ.

[dramaqueen-23.livejournal.com]

Also, it makes it very hard to hide from people. At least, it makes it hard to hide without it being obvious.

Amd if you ever DO want to hide-out for a bit, it necesitates having post/text/e-mail/voice-mail/IM explanations all over the place explaining:

- that you're taking a time-out.

- *Why* you're taking said time-out.

- That the taking of said time-out is not meant to imply any personal snubbery towards anyone.

[listersgirl]

And really, that much explaining kind of defeats the purpose of not wanting to talk to anyone!

[dramaqueen-23.livejournal.com]

Exactly! Like, Hel-LO!

[sarcasma.livejournal.com]

I agree with all of the above (okay, with point the third only in principle because I haven't heard the album). Footmen would rule: you could send him with the note and instructions to just drop it off and hurry home, which is the equivalent of the single email with no follow-up; or, you could send him with the note and instructions to hang around and hassle the recipient's butler or other footmen or whatever for a reply, which is the equivalent of the follow-up emails and text messages and phone messages, but which requires you yourself to do absolutely no work whatsoever.

I've often thought of putting a list of who's on the filter onto filtered posts. I don't filter much, and usually who's on the filter would be obvious by the content (girly TMI for instance, or stuff for people who are local, or whatever), so I don't see where that would be a breach of etiquette. I say we start a convention of doing that all the time and see if anyone objects.

"Listing who's on the filter" is the new "crediting the icon maker": let's make it true!

[listersgirl]

Oh, man, you could start a whole new LJ convention! Soon people would be writing filtered ranty posts about how someone didn't list their filter and it's a huge breach of etiquitte and don't they KNOW?!

[sarcasma.livejournal.com]

I mean, how could they not know? God!!

[sh1mm3r.livejournal.com]

I still have refused to get a cell phone/pager/blackberry etc.

Although once, a friend forgot I was going camping and panicked when she didn't see me online for two days. I had three e-mails asking if I was okay (or maybe that just means I'm on e-mail too often, eh?)

My husband, on the other hand, since he works as a computer consultant, has one of those obnoxious pager cell phones. I have yet to go to lunch with him where we weren't interrupted at least twice. *sigh* If so many people didn't need him, he wouldn't need to take it with him, but a techie's job is never done.

At home, we don't answer our phone. Why else would we pay for caller ID and voicemail? We have had friends and family become supremely annoyed, but why should I put my life on hold simply because somebody else has decided they want to talk to me? The quick answer - I shouldn't. Ha!

[listersgirl]

I never used to answer my home phone either, but now that I only have a cell phone (and no landline), I feel somewhat more obligated to answer it. I mean, I can't pretend that I'm not home.

[angharad.livejournal.com]

You could pretend you were at a movie and had to turn it off?

[listersgirl]

Ooh, smart!