I agree w/ you on the porn thing, so you aren't the only one. Obviously, if your SO is completely obsessed w/ porn, it could be a problem, but so would being completely obsessed w/ anything else. Even before I started reading much slash or other porn myself, I never got the whole not looking at other women thing. Visual erotica doesn't do that much for me, but I'm quite happy to watch all the pretty men on my favorite TV shows. They're pretty, but they aren't real the way someone you actually know is. As long as he isn't going ogling in a rude way, or making derogatory comparisons, I figure you probably need to worry more about a guy who doesn't look want to look at women.